A post on FB
A post on Facebook really spoke to me this morning, so I thought I’d talk more about the message it sent to me.
Have you ever been through something extremely tough, but had to show up because of a prior commitment? Then you later hear people were not very nice about the things they said behind your back? Perhaps it’s rather common. I’d like to think not, but it has happened to me as well, so I do know it happens.
Even prior to the events of 2020, we all dealt with things that were sad, heart breaking, upsetting…even losses. So it’s not new, however I believe in this past year it has become much clearer to me that we need to live in a state of grace.
Giving grace when every expectation is not met. Being patient with others. Perhaps even asking if you can help in some cases.
We just do not know what others are going through. I’ve known people that have lost their jobs or taken a very hefty cut in pay. Moms that had to learn to be a teacher overnight. Couples learn how to be together 24/7 where it was not as easy as it may seem. Not to mention the illnesses and deaths that many of us have witnessed very close to us.
And it never fails, when I’m going through a stressful or sad time, there seems to be a lot I need to do, where I’m sure that I’m not at 100% as I typically would be. I’m just grateful to be there, but know that I’m not at my best. I’ve watched how impatient others can be, but also how kind many people are.
I typically am not one to share what I’m dealing with, and I know many others just like me in that regard. With that being said, I believe that has opened my eyes in a big way.
Being patient, giving someone grace, not being so hard on ourselves, being kind…these are just a few things we can do.
This seems easy, right? Have you ever noticed that unless you sit back and really think about it, you may not be giving someone the benefit of the doubt? So the next time your brain starts taking you down a negative road because the person in front of you isn’t doing it just the way you want, or maybe isn’t even being very nice themselves, take a step back and take a deep breath. Consider that they could be going through something awful, even tragic. Then respond with grace.
Shoot…even if they are just mean, by doing this, you will actually feel better anyway! It feels much better to kill’em with kindness than it does to be as hateful as they are. Right?
So there’s my two cents on the subject. XOXO Be kind to everyone you run across today. Then let us know how that made you feel!
Love to you,