Do you compare yourself with others? I just had this conversation early this morning with someone, and thought it was worthy of repeating!
We always say not to compare because we are all on a different journey and don’t have the same timing, etc, but this is harder than it sounds. How often do you find yourself wondering why you haven’t hit that goal that Susie has? Or your sales aren’t as good as hers?
We are human, and that is just a normal reaction.
So what can we do?
Here’s what I do. Maybe this will help you as well. When I start finding myself comparing myself to someone else, I stop and ask myself this question…where was I last year? Am I still in the same place? Or did I grow?
Compare yourself to YOU
If we can stay focused on ourselves and how much we have grown or accomplished, then we are in the right place. If we want to do better, then our goal should be to improve ourselves. Not try to be like someone else, but to be a better version of ourselves.
Just this morning
In a conversation this morning, I asked the person where they were just a year ago. We then started listing off all of the areas they have seen good things happen and all of the improvements they have implemented in their life.
Suddenly the conversation went to a completely different place! They were saying things like “Wow. I’ve come a long way!” “I didn’t even think about that!”
It’s easy to get caught up in what we don’t have instead of looking at all that we do have.
One simple word…GRATITUDE
I actually have a sign in my office that says “gratitude changes everything”. This is so true. When we stop comparing ourselves to others and think about our own growth over a period of time, we become grateful. When we are grateful, our hearts are happier. When our hearts are happier, we accomplish even more AND we never know who is being inspired.
My own situation
I always like to share a little piece of me when I share things like this, so that you see I’m living and breathing what I’m writing.
Recently I was beating myself up because we have some BIG sellers in our company, and I’m not in that top group. I felt like as a leader, I should be doing those kinds of numbers.
When I take my own advice, I realize that I’ve done better than last year by a bit, but even more importantly, I think about where I was 10 years ago.
10 years ago I had a corporate job working 50-60 hours a week, including some nights and weekends. I made much less than I do now, and worked for someone else. I enjoyed my job, but I was definitely not my own boss.
Today I have my own business, I still work a lot of hours, but it’s on MY terms and my schedule. I definitely make more money, and I earn extras (like incentive trips, jewelry, etc). I can work from anywhere AND I get to be of service to others.
Oh, and did I mention…this freedom makes me HAPPY. 🙂
So compare yourself to YOU
When you find yourself going down that path, stop and ask yourself where you were a year ago. Or ten years ago. If you aren’t where you want to be, then adjust your goals and work toward them. But do it based on YOU and YOUR goals. Not someone else’s.
Cheers to YOU!